Golden rule two: Start small
Sally invited parents to an information evening at East Sussex College. The requirements were that neither they nor their partner had been to university, they had children at school, and they were interested in learning about higher education. Of the 15 parents who came to the information evening, 12 signed up for the programme.
Our overnight stay in Hastings in November 2019 developed the bond between and amongst parents and facilitators. In Mallydams Wood, we took part in search and rescue training and learnt to make stretchers, start fires and administer emergency first aid. We didn’t talk much about higher education but instead shared a delicious meal cooked by a local chef and belly laughed over silly party games. This set the tone for the next nine months.
Sally and Eggtooth co-facilitator, Ali Mooncie, began hosting weekly sessions at East Sussex College, inviting parents to share their educational experiences. Some parents felt they had been let down by the system and, until enrolling on the Hastings Project, didn’t have the safe space nor the support to express their disappointment and frustration. When one parent shared, others followed, and before long, the group dynamic was open and supportive.
I travelled with colleagues to Hastings every six weeks to deliver higher education sessions on everything from the nuances of the student finance system to the nightmare that is university jargon. Parents asked questions without fear of judgement and talked to me about their children’s individual situations.